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Letting Go

Letting go has been talked about many times on websites, books and people all over the world……..letting go of a loved one.

Letting go can have different meaning and be interpreted differently by everyone.  Maybe people should be more specific about what they mean about letting go and not just a wide stroke of saying you have to let go and move on.

We NEVER have to”let go”. I will never let go.

BUT.

There is one part that we do have to let go of and for anyone who has ever dealt with the loss of a loved one, it’s the most difficult thing to do, letting go of the physical part of our loved one.

I have learned about letting go from the loss of our son Billy,who crossed over on June 26 2004 and of all of our loved ones who have crossed over is that,in time we have to let go of the physical part of our loved ones….in our own time. Meaning letting go of thinking and feeling that our loved one may still one day walk through that door or make that call or we will wake up thinking is was just a dream/nightmare.  Being obsessed, with hoping that they can come back to us somehow wanting to hold them as they were.  I know EXACTLY how it feels,I’ll use one of my own example’s…..of what I wanted……and this is no joke….. I have told this to only two people,before I posted this onto our group page on facebook.  Letting go is only of the physical part ONLY, we keep everything else, I will always have  memories and items of Billy with us. 

I was so desperate to find a way to get my son Billy back and I am sure that many of you felt the same way about your loved one, that I looked at books and went online to see if there was any possible way of going back in time, and I didn’t care if I had to sell my house to get it done, ( if it was even possible) to get our son Billy back.  No,of course not, But when in deep grief you will try and think of any means possible or remotely or even impossible to have your loved one back with you.  

Yes,  we do have to ” let go ” or whatever else you would like to call it, but only that one part of them, ( the physical part ) and yes it’s the most difficult thing anyone will ever have to deal with in their lives.  Like I mentioned earlier, in our own time, it’s different for everyone. There is no set time or way of doing it, we are all different and grieve differently. If  we don’t, we can’t really start to move forward with our own lives.

Our loved ones who have crossed over are always with us and so very close by,  all be it in spirit form/energy.  Our true form is spirit or energy it’s the same thing, for that is who we really are, a spirit being, using a human form experiencing a flesh and blood life here on earth in physical form to learn (earth being or school) and experience life to the fullest and most of all to LOVE……….HOW WE TREAT ONE ANOTHER.  When our own journey/purpose here on earth is completed we to go”home” heaven, otherside or afterlife all the same, where we will be reunited with our loved ones who have crossed over before us and have nothing but pure love.

I, like many of you have had to deal with “letting go” or for some of you in the process of “letting go” ( the physical part) and it doesn’t mean we let go of the memories, forget their name, don’t mention their name or remove all photo’s and things from your home…… That would be crazy, never happen.  I have and I am sure you all have and will always have great memories of your loved ones who have crossed over, I sure do and will always have them.  The same thing goes for things that belonged to them, I have kept things which belonged to our son Billy,why not Billy was and is still part of my life and I will always keep a few things of his.

Yes,”LETTING GO” of the physical part of our loved one IS the most difficult thing we can ever do, it isn’t easy, it’s also the most painful thing anyone of us will ever go through.  We are in human form, with a human mind with feelings and love.

Just because we do have to “let go’ of the ( physical part ) of our loved ones, it doesn’t mean that our loved ones will think we have forgotten about them, let them down or be upset with us or think we don’t loved them any more……no way, it doesn’t work that way.  Our loved ones always know what’s in our hearts,they know the love we have for them.

We have to take it one day at a time and if you have to one hour, one minute and even one second at a time if you have to and we DO have to. Our loved ones want with all of their hearts for us to start living our lives to the fullest again, but start at your own pace, but start.

Love is everything and nothing else matters.

Our facebook group page, feel free to visit or join if you like.

http://www.facebook.com/groups/223805824358789/

My Heart-Shaped Cloud Sign From Billy

This is the first time I have two posting’s on the same day, But I could not pass up the chance to post this sign from our son Billy.  One of Billy’s favorite sign’s he send’s us from “heaven” are heart-shaped images and they could be of the moon, street lights, christmas tree light’s and other light’s. Billy has often sent us at times heart-shaped clouds, but I never managed to have a camera or my camera phone ready before the heart-shaped cloud would fade away.

Today is the first time I was able to see the heart-shaped cloud, reach for my camera phone and take a photo of the cloud still in the shape of a heart. My favorite sign from our son Billy who crossed over on June 26 2004.

LOVE IS EVERYTHING, NOTHING ELSE MATTERS.

www.oursonbilly.com

 

What’s in your heart is all that matters.

 

www.oursonbilly.com

Finding Comfort in The Earl Stages of Grieving.

I have received email and questions from people who have just dealt with a loss and from people who have a family member or friend who has just suffered the loss of a loved one. They have asked me what brought me some comfort in the early stage of my grieving after the loss of our son Billy. I will share 4 of them with you and of course this can be different for everyone, there is no wrong or right way, it’s your way and that’s what really matters.
1. Having someone close by brought me comfort, they did not have to say anything or do anything at all, just knowing there was someone close by helped me deal with my loss. If I wanted to talk with them and they wanted to say something great, sometimes I didn’t want anyone to talk to me, I just wanted to be left alone, but have them close by, could have been to watch tv( or should I say stare at it )because my mind was in another world, go for a walk, just sit and sometimes talk. Just having someone close by was one of my comfort’s. If your someone who has a family member or friend who has dealt with a loss and you’re not sure what to do…….just be there, just hang out with them.

2. Visiting our son Billy’s memorial, brought me some comfort. We had for 8 months a roadside memorial that I visited every single day. We planted flowers and a plaque which my parents bought us. Going to the place of the accident gave me a place to visit, think and helped bring some comfort to me. Some people may think that I was crazy for doing that, but I didn’t care what anyone was thinking. Billy was my son and I was going to grieve that way I could and which brought me some comfort and peace. There is no wrong or right way to grieve, it’s your way.

3. My family and friends, I am very blessed to have a great family and friends to help bring me some comfort during my grieving. For their part just being close by and sometimes talking helped my a difference and was very comforting for me.

4. This one was 8 months after the loss of our son Billy and which really helped bring some comfort and peace of mind and that was having a reading with a medium, in our case with Vicki Monroe. Our reading with Vicki help take a load off my shoulders, knowing that our son Billy was ok and that Billy can still connect with us from heaven, it was an awesome experience and brought me great comfort knowing that our son Billy is still so very close by, all be it in spirit form.

I do have other way that brought me comfort, but these are the ones that I wanted to share with you.

Feel free to comment on what helped bring you some comfort during your early stages of grieving.

www.oursonbilly.com  while on our website feel free to visit or join our group page on facebook – Signs from our loved ones

A place to share about our loss of a loved one and the countless sign’s that they can and do send us.

Forever By Our Sides By Claire Ann Stevenson

Forever By Our Sides

You’ve climbed that highest mountian,
Your earthly life is done,
You are home again in Heaven,
All your battles here won.

Some people live a lot of years,
Others only a few,
Many lives are only minutes,
Just briefly passing through.

What is the rhyme or reason?
We desperately want to know,
Our hearts are torn and aching,
not wanting ever to let go.

Parents never think to bury their children,
Our minds don’t work that way,
We assume our children will remain here,
Long after we’ve passed away.

The shock and trauma of your child dying,
ia a pain beyond this earth,
Parents promise to love and care for,
Their children from their birth.

Although we no longer see our children,
Or hear their earthly voice,
They are a part of us forever,
In this we can rejoice.

We feel them with us always,
Their love is now our guide,
We are blessed to have them with us,
Forever by our side.

This poem was written by a friend of mine,
who loss a son Graham Thomson Stevenson.
You may want to visit Claire’s blog page at

http://amotherstears.blogspot.com/

Also don’t forget to visit our group
page Signs from our loved ones on facebook

http://www.facebook.com/groups/223805824358789/

Receiving Spirit Essence In Photo’s

I would like to share a type of spirit photo which I love to receive an it is one type of spirit forms that I can see with my eyes while taking photo’s.   The way I take spirit photo’s is that I hold my camera about a foot away from my face, so that I can see what can be around me as I am taking a photograph. As the flash is going off, the light from my camera will reflect off the spirit essence, which I can see with my eyes.  I can see their size color’s and how many could be within my field of vision.  It is so cool,  Also what you see on the photograph is almost always just a very small part of the size of spirit essence.  Also, they will not always appear on camera for you, but by holding your camera away from your face you may be able to see them appear near by, just out of camera range, which is still a fantastic experience in it self.  Below are a few of my most recent spirit essence photographs taken over the past few weeks.

Spirit Face

Spirit essence

Spirit face

 We have been able and continue to receive many of this type of spirit photo’s and it is something that everyone can do. You don’t need any fantasy or expensive equipment at all, I mostly use 3 digital camera’s ranging in price from less than $100.00 to about $200.00 and I have been able to use the inexpensive $4.00 disposable camera’s as well.    All you need is an open mind and even better an open heart and of course a camera….lol.

May you receive many awesome spirit photograph’s.

LOVE is everything nothing else matters.

Also feel free to join our facebook group, Signs from our loved ones. http://www.facebook.com/groups/223805824358789/

www.oursonbilly.com

Dreams from our loved ones in Heaven

Our loved ones who have crossed over can and do connect with us in countless different ways. 

Dreams are one of the ways that our loved ones do connect with us and I would like to share one

of those dreams with you.  This short dream with our son Billy who crossed over on June 26 2004 had

taken place a few years ago and it began like this.     A handful of us were gathering in a place that

I would call a drug store/hardware store, something like you would see in the tv show Mayberry

with sheriff Andy Taylor.   Anyway,  we were all just hanging around the store talking when Billy

cracked a joke that got all of us laughing so hard that our faces were turning red and we all had a

huge smile on our faces.  I was laughing so hard that I felt I was about to wake up and start laughing out

loud in bed. It was a great feeling, to be with my son who had crossed over and have a great laugh with him

again.   After our laughter we all went our separate ways.  Don’t disregard a dream that you had about

your loved ones, as just a dream, they can and do connect with us through our dreams.  I can tell you

I can still feel the laughter to this day, it was and still is an awesome feeling.  I just wish I could have

remembered the joke….lol.

Love is everything

nothing else matters

Have a great day

Guy

www.oursonbilly.com