Letting Go

May 1, 2012

Letting go has been talked about many times on websites, books and people all over the world……..letting go of a loved one.

Letting go can have different meaning and be interpreted differently by everyone.  Maybe people should be more specific about what they mean about letting go and not just a wide stroke of saying you have to let go and move on.

We NEVER have to”let go”. I will never let go.


There is one part that we do have to let go of and for anyone who has ever dealt with the loss of a loved one, it’s the most difficult thing to do, letting go of the physical part of our loved one.

I have learned about letting go from the loss of our son Billy,who crossed over on June 26 2004 and of all of our loved ones who have crossed over is that,in time we have to let go of the physical part of our loved ones….in our own time. Meaning letting go of thinking and feeling that our loved one may still one day walk through that door or make that call or we will wake up thinking is was just a dream/nightmare.  Being obsessed, with hoping that they can come back to us somehow wanting to hold them as they were.  I know EXACTLY how it feels,I’ll use one of my own example’s…..of what I wanted……and this is no joke….. I have told this to only two people,before I posted this onto our group page on facebook.  Letting go is only of the physical part ONLY, we keep everything else, I will always have  memories and items of Billy with us. 

I was so desperate to find a way to get my son Billy back and I am sure that many of you felt the same way about your loved one, that I looked at books and went online to see if there was any possible way of going back in time, and I didn’t care if I had to sell my house to get it done, ( if it was even possible) to get our son Billy back.  No,of course not, But when in deep grief you will try and think of any means possible or remotely or even impossible to have your loved one back with you.  

Yes,  we do have to ” let go ” or whatever else you would like to call it, but only that one part of them, ( the physical part ) and yes it’s the most difficult thing anyone will ever have to deal with in their lives.  Like I mentioned earlier, in our own time, it’s different for everyone. There is no set time or way of doing it, we are all different and grieve differently. If  we don’t, we can’t really start to move forward with our own lives.

Our loved ones who have crossed over are always with us and so very close by,  all be it in spirit form/energy.  Our true form is spirit or energy it’s the same thing, for that is who we really are, a spirit being, using a human form experiencing a flesh and blood life here on earth in physical form to learn (earth being or school) and experience life to the fullest and most of all to LOVE……….HOW WE TREAT ONE ANOTHER.  When our own journey/purpose here on earth is completed we to go”home” heaven, otherside or afterlife all the same, where we will be reunited with our loved ones who have crossed over before us and have nothing but pure love.

I, like many of you have had to deal with “letting go” or for some of you in the process of “letting go” ( the physical part) and it doesn’t mean we let go of the memories, forget their name, don’t mention their name or remove all photo’s and things from your home…… That would be crazy, never happen.  I have and I am sure you all have and will always have great memories of your loved ones who have crossed over, I sure do and will always have them.  The same thing goes for things that belonged to them, I have kept things which belonged to our son Billy,why not Billy was and is still part of my life and I will always keep a few things of his.

Yes,”LETTING GO” of the physical part of our loved one IS the most difficult thing we can ever do, it isn’t easy, it’s also the most painful thing anyone of us will ever go through.  We are in human form, with a human mind with feelings and love.

Just because we do have to “let go’ of the ( physical part ) of our loved ones, it doesn’t mean that our loved ones will think we have forgotten about them, let them down or be upset with us or think we don’t loved them any more……no way, it doesn’t work that way.  Our loved ones always know what’s in our hearts,they know the love we have for them.

We have to take it one day at a time and if you have to one hour, one minute and even one second at a time if you have to and we DO have to. Our loved ones want with all of their hearts for us to start living our lives to the fullest again, but start at your own pace, but start.

Love is everything and nothing else matters.

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2 Responses to “Letting Go”

  1. cs Says:

    after almost 6 years I have penned my pain in when mommas cry, the darkside if yearning; grief after the loss of a child

  2. cs Says:

    I was given no say in letting go of our son, Richard’s physical body – but I agree ‘closure; letting go’ those are terms my husband and I will NEVER include in our vocabulary – while Richard has crossed over beause of our struggle still six years later – he does stay on this side more than moving on – however, we are working on that – his sadness and concern for our protection he needs to begin to moving on in his work wit the security and knowing that we are safe and coming to terms – our spiritual awareness is opening and we now realize he can cross back and forth; he will NEVER be gone from us nor will we ever be removed from him. Our journeys continue. Thank you for sharing your journey and your son with us; Heavenly Scents (CIndy Snapp) ❤

    Just this year I was able to pen my pain in "When Momma's Cry; the Darkside of Yearning, Grief after the Loss of a Child", it is available on amazon for kindle but it is kind of high there –

    if you go to http://www.smashwords.com it is available for download to your computer in PDF much cheaper.

    I am trying to get a Blog up and going but I just don't want to put words out there so I only post when I am filled to the brim with something to say.


    But since penning my pain of the first six years; I am now moving on in my journey and my heart thoughts will be penned from the view of this portion of the journey.

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