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August 5, 2010
I have received emails from people who have suffered the loss of a loved one, who like myself felt partially responsible for their loss. For me it was the loss of our oldest son Billy, who died while riding his ATV at night hitting a tree, where he died instantly, that was June 26 2004.
I felt partially responsible because of a dream I had the night our son Billy had his accident. My dream was that someone in our family died, I could see the funeral and the people gathering at the funeral. the dream was so powerful, that I awoke very unsettled and nearly woke up my wife so we could call both of our sons to make sure that they were okay, but I didn’t wake her, I just passed it off as it just being a dream, nothing more. The next day, Sunday at around 10:00 am we received the most heartbreaking and devastating news any parent could ever receive, that one of their children has died. Of course the dream I had the night before came back into my mind.
Besides everything else going on at the time, in the back of my mind, I was thinking what if I would have woke up my wife, and we did make that call to both of our sons to see if they were okay, could that have prevented the accident. That dream and the “what if” stayed with me for some time, it also made me feel partially responsible, because I passed it off as a dream. I was given the answer to that question about 8 months after Billy crossed over to heaven when we visited Spirit messenger Vicki Monroe. Billy told us, through Vicki Monroe that there was NOTHING anyone could have said or done that would have changed the event, that It was time for Billy to go home ” heaven”. Billy’s work here in the physical life was completed and that it was time to go and for us not to worry, because he was safe, healthy, happy for he was home and for us to live our lives to the fullest, to be happy.
I just want others to understand, and to those who have sent me those emails, you should never feel in any way responsible or hold yourself partially responsible for your loss because you think you could have prevented or had something to do with your loss. Yes, I know it isn’t easy, I’ve been there, I know how difficult it is to get that feeling out of your mind. There may be countless ways we may feel partially responsible for the loss of our loved one, whether it comes from a dream, sending our loved ones on an errand, insisting they go to some event, work related and so on. Our loved ones in “heaven” DO NOT want us in any way to feel responsible; they want us, to always keep moving forward, living our lives to the fullest and to be happy. Take it one day at a time. Our loved ones in “heaven” are always close by and have only pure love for us.
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June 19, 2010
June 26 2010 will make 6 years since the loss of our son Billy, who crossed over to heaven on that day. I will touch on my own personal from that day to today. The loss of a child no matter what age they are at their time of passing, is the most devastating feeling that any parent could ever go through.
It is the most heartbreaking, life draining, painful, mind numbing and so on……….. feelings that anyone could ever go through. But I can tell you that, as a father who has suffered that experience myself and as difficult as it is to go through, life will get better. You will start to have more good days than bad days, it may seem impossible but you will get there, one day at a time, but you will have to do your part by moving forward. I can tell you from the many emails that we have received over the years, that there is no set time or way of going through your grief because everyone is different. The important thing is to always try to keep moving forward and living your life to the fullest.
For me personally, the loss of our son Billy nearly took everything out of me, I did not want to do anything, I felt lost, very depressed, I went from around 190 lbs to 160 lbs and I didn’t look so good I’m not saying that I looked good before, just that I didn’t look like the same person. It was very difficult to want to go to work or work at all and I needed help to deal with the loss of our son Billy
One of the ways that received help was with a meeting with spirit messenger Vicki Monroe who helped us when she was able to connect with our son Billy in heaven. Vicki’s message from Billy was amazing and very uplifting which also helped me to create our website www.oursonbilly.com which also helped me as a healing tool and by the many emails that we have received, it is also helping others. It took about two years, give or take for me to really start living my life again. everyone is welcome to visit our website and read or story and of the amazing events, ( signs from Billy in heaven ) which began to occur to us.
I can tell you that our loved ones when they cross over to heaven only have pure love for us and that they are closer to us then they were while in their physical form. They want the very best for us to keep moving forward and to live our lives to the fullest. They are always near by they know how we are feeling and when we are thinking about them and that when it is our time to cross over to heaven they will be there to greet us.
For anyone who needs help dealing with their loss, it’s good to seek help from those who can help you whether it’s family, friend, a counselor or someone who you know who has gone through a loss to talk too. There are many websites that also forums for anyone who has suffered a loss of a loved one where you can share your grief with others and read comments and articles by people who have gone through a loss. Two of these type’s of websites are www.webhealing.com and www.legacy.com others are www.opentohope.com and www.mygriefspace.net . There are places like www.virtualmemorials.com a place that you can set up very easily a webpage on their website in honor of your loved one, which others can read and talk about their grief and recovery. And of course another helpful way is through a spirit medium, that helped me and I know of many others who have been help deal with their loss through a medium, just make sure that the medium you are seeing is the real deal, like a Vicki Monroe, www.vickimonroe.com . I hope this can be of help to all of those who have suffered a loss in some way and remember, take it one day at a time and always try to keep moving forward. Your more than welcome to send us an email at any time at email@example.com .
Have a great day