August 30, 2015
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August 5, 2010
I have received emails from people who have suffered the loss of a loved one, who like myself felt partially responsible for their loss. For me it was the loss of our oldest son Billy, who died while riding his ATV at night hitting a tree, where he died instantly, that was June 26 2004.
I felt partially responsible because of a dream I had the night our son Billy had his accident. My dream was that someone in our family died, I could see the funeral and the people gathering at the funeral. the dream was so powerful, that I awoke very unsettled and nearly woke up my wife so we could call both of our sons to make sure that they were okay, but I didn’t wake her, I just passed it off as it just being a dream, nothing more. The next day, Sunday at around 10:00 am we received the most heartbreaking and devastating news any parent could ever receive, that one of their children has died. Of course the dream I had the night before came back into my mind.
Besides everything else going on at the time, in the back of my mind, I was thinking what if I would have woke up my wife, and we did make that call to both of our sons to see if they were okay, could that have prevented the accident. That dream and the “what if” stayed with me for some time, it also made me feel partially responsible, because I passed it off as a dream. I was given the answer to that question about 8 months after Billy crossed over to heaven when we visited Spirit messenger Vicki Monroe. Billy told us, through Vicki Monroe that there was NOTHING anyone could have said or done that would have changed the event, that It was time for Billy to go home ” heaven”. Billy’s work here in the physical life was completed and that it was time to go and for us not to worry, because he was safe, healthy, happy for he was home and for us to live our lives to the fullest, to be happy.
I just want others to understand, and to those who have sent me those emails, you should never feel in any way responsible or hold yourself partially responsible for your loss because you think you could have prevented or had something to do with your loss. Yes, I know it isn’t easy, I’ve been there, I know how difficult it is to get that feeling out of your mind. There may be countless ways we may feel partially responsible for the loss of our loved one, whether it comes from a dream, sending our loved ones on an errand, insisting they go to some event, work related and so on. Our loved ones in “heaven” DO NOT want us in any way to feel responsible; they want us, to always keep moving forward, living our lives to the fullest and to be happy. Take it one day at a time. Our loved ones in “heaven” are always close by and have only pure love for us.
Have a great day