I have received email and questions from people who have just dealt with a loss and from people who have a family member or friend who has just suffered the loss of a loved one. They have asked me what brought me some comfort in the early stage of my grieving after the loss of our son Billy. I will share 4 of them with you and of course this can be different for everyone, there is no wrong or right way, it’s your way and that’s what really matters.
1. Having someone close by brought me comfort, they did not have to say anything or do anything at all, just knowing there was someone close by helped me deal with my loss. If I wanted to talk with them and they wanted to say something great, sometimes I didn’t want anyone to talk to me, I just wanted to be left alone, but have them close by, could have been to watch tv( or should I say stare at it )because my mind was in another world, go for a walk, just sit and sometimes talk. Just having someone close by was one of my comfort’s. If your someone who has a family member or friend who has dealt with a loss and you’re not sure what to do…….just be there, just hang out with them.
2. Visiting our son Billy’s memorial, brought me some comfort. We had for 8 months a roadside memorial that I visited every single day. We planted flowers and a plaque which my parents bought us. Going to the place of the accident gave me a place to visit, think and helped bring some comfort to me. Some people may think that I was crazy for doing that, but I didn’t care what anyone was thinking. Billy was my son and I was going to grieve that way I could and which brought me some comfort and peace. There is no wrong or right way to grieve, it’s your way.
3. My family and friends, I am very blessed to have a great family and friends to help bring me some comfort during my grieving. For their part just being close by and sometimes talking helped my a difference and was very comforting for me.
4. This one was 8 months after the loss of our son Billy and which really helped bring some comfort and peace of mind and that was having a reading with a medium, in our case with Vicki Monroe. Our reading with Vicki help take a load off my shoulders, knowing that our son Billy was ok and that Billy can still connect with us from heaven, it was an awesome experience and brought me great comfort knowing that our son Billy is still so very close by, all be it in spirit form.
I do have other way that brought me comfort, but these are the ones that I wanted to share with you.
Feel free to comment on what helped bring you some comfort during your early stages of grieving.
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A place to share about our loss of a loved one and the countless sign’s that they can and do send us.
